My Life Lessons
June 10, 2016
I haven't posted here in a while because truthfully, I haven't felt very inspired or insightful for a long time. Life is hard sometimes, and my natural inclination is to hide away and share my feelings with no one. So this post is an effort to open up and be vulnerable, when my natural inclination is to not be.
Me+Tyler are moving to a new apartment, which means major decluttering. I came across a little notebook I used to keep with me at all times where I would write down little life lessons I was learning. I haven't looked at this notebook for probably two years, but I'm glad I did tonight.
So here, for all of you, is a word for word collection of my life lessons of 2013-2014. Many of these things I learned from conversations with you lovely people. Not all of them still apply in my life, or were true to even start with, but a lot of them still ring true to my heart.
My Life Lessons
4/16/13
- Structure and organization are key to succeeding and being a good leader.
- Other people's procrastination is not your problem.
- It is okay to relax sometimes and not do anything.
- You don't have to do or be everything at once.
- Someone else always has it worse.
- The more personal you are with people, the more they open up and respect you.
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- Use people's names.
- Make it about them.
- Cost/Benefit Analysis:
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- "Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up."
- Don't "fix" people, but rather, ask questions that allow them to assess themselves.
- Don't assume! You'll look like an idiot if you're wrong.
- Don't rearrange your schedule around other people, it's your life -- not theirs.
4/18/13
- Taking risks and executing ideas that require faith sometimes turn out to be the most rewarding.
4/21/13
- NEVER become someone who is club exclusive.
- Everyone needs a friend sometimes.
- Life is like surfing - you cannot control the waves, but you can learn how to ride them.
- When public speaking, DO NOT GIVE A DISCLAIMER AS TO WHY YOUR SPEECH IS OF LESSER VALUE! It is of value! Not a good way to start.
6/13/13
- Commitment is not an act of moderation.
- A big part of loving someone is supporting them.
- Even when you're an adult, some people will always see you as a kid and treat you like one too.
- Hearts can change.
6/20/13
- You don't need someone to validate your feelings -- if you experience an emotion, EXPERIENCE IT. It belongs to you and no one else.
- It's better to be "taken advantage of" by being too nice than it is to be cold and not depended upon.
- Almost is the worst word to feel -- don't be an almost.
7/1/13
- It's okay to spend time alone somethings - it doesn't mean you are being selfish.
- Silence is nothing to b afraid of.
- Ask more questions, listen more - talk less.
- You're as good as you think yourself to be.
- Respect authority, don't fear it or feel of less value surrounded with it.
- Everyone finds God differently.
- People are not threats, unless they are trying to kill/harm you.
7/2/13
- DEADLINES are essential to success and reaching goals.
- It feels better to respond happily.
- Being active and taking care of yourself is definitely part of being happy.
7/3/13
- THINGS TAKE TIME - don't compare your relationships to others.
- When you feel like crying all the time, it's probably PMS.
- The more you think about others, the less selfish you are able to be.
- If you're feeling down, do something for someone else.
7/8/13
- If people seem to be distant, give them space.
- Everyone claims to "HATE MONDAYS" - be a person who gives someone a reason to love them.
- Serve to love, not to be recognized.
- Don't let fear keep you from helping others.
- Don't take everything so seriously.
- Need a pick me up? Play with some kids.
7/11/13
- In the real world, if you want to take time off, you'll have to make that time up (work, school)
- Sometimes people don't change because they fear they won't be taken seriously.
7/12/13
- Books are an escape from the world.
- Not everyone is going to love you back, love anyways.
7/14/13
- If you want something to be different, you have to do something differently.
- Love is a VERB - Never forget that.
7/15/13
- Gratitude is a form of love.
8/4/13
- Always remember you're better than you think you are.
9/3/13
- You can hardly ever see how much pain someone has gone through. Don't judge the situation too harshly.
- Life is impossible to predict.
- Sometimes you have to be spontaneous and enjoy moments you may never get back.
6/3/14
- Don't be stupid. Life's harder that way.
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